I have always been a very out spoken person that pretty much stated exactly what was on my mind but I am a person that love hard and will do almost anything for those that need it. I learned quickly in my personal and professional life that I made people feel uncomfortable with my comments and often prevented them to want to tell me things. I had to learn to modify my distasteful comments while continuing to be truthful to them and to myself. A close and dear friend shared with me how I made her feel sometimes with the words I chose but she knew that I was truly concern and wanted to deter her from participating in what she was involved with. My efforts were never intended to hurt anyone. I had to look in the mirror and do a self evaluation of myself and I did not like what I had become. I was willing to change and it has been hard; however, the sacrifice is worth it.
Even though I was a blunt person, I had lots of friends and love ones that I spent a lot of time with. Now that I have changed, my relationships have blossomed so abundantly. I can see the difference in my past interaction with my acquaintances and my present and how it has become a more give and receive type of relationships where they are concerned about me too. I guess I never allowed them to show me. I can say nowadays that I am a listener and consoler that have learned to allow other to make their own decisions unless they ask for mine. I receive joy in just having moments or occasion that I can share with someone without being concerned if I have said something inappropriate. I am a social bunny that loves to laugh, love and relate with others. Relationships are important and it takes dedication from both parties to keep them together.
Katrice what a great self-reflection, I also had to learn some of the same lessons when dealing with my oldest daughter. You are so blessed to be able to step back and look at how you intersct with others. Some people never learn how to form positive retationships.
ReplyDeleteKatrice,
ReplyDeleteI truly feel what you're saying. I feel more comfortable with a person being upfront with how they feel about me or even about a situation we may have discuss. I'm more of a person who loves to give everyone the time of day. Now the older I'm getting I feel the need to defend myself a little more because people do take your kindness for a weakness. So I feel little more at ease saying what I have to say but in a tone that won't offend them but to also let them know I'm serious about what I said.
Hi Katrice
ReplyDeleteSometimes saying what's on your mind is not bad, if you say it the right way..However, I glad that you love who you've become.
Isn't it good to have people around you who love and respect you, even when we don't desire it.
Good post!
Katrice,
ReplyDeleteWow, What a journey you have made. Thank you for sharing your self-reflection with us. I truly agree with the comment you made about dedication from both parties. We get from a relationship what we are willing to give and it sounds as if you were willing to change to better your relationships - good for you!